Monday, October 12, 2009

CaN THe HeaRT EveR CeaSE to LOVE...

Relationships start and relationships break... 
And after all has happened...hurt, lonely, deserted , grief struck we decide we wont fall in love again...we yearn for the love we have lost..we grieve and mourn...with no motivation and energy left...we see no future! A break up of any kind of relationship makes a person lose her strength and her self esteem. It's tough to move on with life when you suddenly find yourself unloved and single again...There is so much that keeps you reminding of all that happened..there are shared memories, shared friends, shared traditions and sometimes shared children !
It is sad but eventually even after all we stop loving ? Do we actually stop loving them or do we just supress our feelings ? Or do we just move on and put it behind us ? When we say perhaps it doesnt go away may be it turns to something like a detached love...It's just like when someone that you love dies. You don't stop loving them just because they are no longer here, you just accept that they've moved on and learn to cherish the memories that you have...
Watever the case be...rarely does someone hold back to the old memories..." LOVE is a slippery slope! " as one of my frends says...n no matter how hard we try we do slip every now n then :) and even then we are never prepared for the heart ache that goes with it...!!!

Everyone is different, and time does heal and make things easier, but there are some people you never stop loving , at least its that way for me.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Is it really LOVE that hurts?

Well well... my question to everyone who reads this....Have you ever really been in love? Does it really hurt so much ? A friend of mine happened to meet me today, unfortunately his relationship with his high school sweetheart had come to an he told me about his story n the way things happened i could feel the impression he had gathered about this emotion called LOVE ! He said its horrible because it makes you so vulnerable...opening your chest, opening up your heart so that someone can get inside you and mess you up. Well, he claimed he was perfectly " normal "till the day " that stupid girl " ( his words !) no different from all the other stupid girls walked into his life...and; he gave her a piece of himself...and then his life wasn't his own anymore. Love had ripped him apart he said !!! Just like all gud friends i sided by him ...n consoled me...however he soon left and left me wondering ...IS IT REALLY LOVE THAT HURTS?????

I guess, rejection hurts, loneliness hurts, parting hurts, distance hurts...but its never love that hurts...! And if u ask is so beautiful that once ur out of it ...u want to fall into the whole thing again and again and again !!!

Love is always evolving, and changing intensity. The ability to morph from one person to another is one of the most beautiful qualities of love. The fact that people have enough faith in another person, in the joys of love, that they allow themselves to be vulnerable to such pain, is itself such a beautiful thing...!!! However the question still it really love that hurts?

"O tell her, brief is life but love is long."

- Alfred, Lord Tennyson

Monday, October 5, 2009

Letting go ...

The beauty about life is that its constantly changing...taking new twists n turns that we can never predict...
Spending years away from home in the company of friends had made me some what very demanding ..i mean there was never any option besides keeping in touch always..! Every happening in each others life was always discussed in length ..and in depth...but over a period of time iv realized...There are times you need to let go !!! And letting go does not mean breaking ties..letting go does not mean u stop caring..letting go simply means accepting the fact that the outcome cannot always be in my hands...

Today everyone has more "responsibilities" (however you define it), and though news is still shared, it is no longer with the same limitless abandon as before. The ones who were there for me 24/7 no longer seemed to be "on call" for me all the time. Though I know, they are the best on earth ..that I can still count on them, I initially felt hurt by this sudden demotion. For the first time in my life, Iv started thinking twice about calling some close friends for fear of "intruding". I was unhappy about this initially but now i guess..
I have finally reached the stage I have dreaded for so long. I have come to accept that frequent and daily communication with close friends is not something which is going to start happening magically by itself. Though it seemed so at some point, just because we are "friends", it does not automatically guarantee constant involvement. Everyone is busy with their own lives. 
Maybe this is another symptom of growing up - I don't know. The saddest part is, I no longer feel sad or angered by this realization. Because I myself am "busy" you see... :D

Don't get me wrong here. As I have said many times before, my friends will always be one of the foundations of my life and that is something which will never change. Friendship should grow and evolve as the persons in it grow and evolve - that after all, is a sign of a long-lasting relationship. Well, this knowledge still does not stop me from saying with pride that..
That they have continued to be n would always be there for me wenever i want them...just that the scenario has changed...situations have changed...there are other things which are probably keepin us all occupied...n now i think im mature enough to understand this transition n let go... :)

Life is so hard that if you keep chasing it it will drive you to death ...and Time when pursued like a bandit will behave like one...At some point you have to stop because IT WON' have to admit that you can't catch it..that you 're not supposed to catch it some point u gotta let go...sit still and allow contentment to come to you !!!