LIcK..LiCk...LiCK..!!!

Ever since this birthday of mine ...where i was gifted the maximum number of chocolates ever ...i have been so lost in this dark world...

"Chocolate is food of the Gods"

That is how a Swiss botanist labeled it centuries ago, when he was blessed with his first taste...

I personally love chocolates..n though fully aware about the adverse effects I have not in the least been persuaded to lay down this chocolate habit !Yet, I try not to let my love of chocolates overtake me.... :) :)

I have restricted myself to having chocolates very rarely...specially wen am upset ! A chocolate is always around in my room to satisfy a random urge...to say a "Thankyou" or "Happy Bday " or just to take a nibble !!!! Yes I am chocolate crazy but i have my own standards....I must eat only the BEST ! And rite now ...i am enjoying the goodness of BOURNVILLE AND FERRERO! Yummmmmmm...

Did i make your mouth water yet...???

Oh ...C'mon ....go treat yourself !!!  :) :)

WE CARE....!!!! Spread the wings of breast cancer awareness.. !

A day or two ago wen i first received this message in my Facebook inbox i was a lil puzzled...

Some fun is going on…. just write the color of your bra in your status. Just the color, nothing else. It will be neat to see if this will spread the wings of breast cancer awareness. It will be fun to see how long it takes before people wonder why all the girls have a color in their status…

A little apprehensive...and a little amused..! But then within just a couple of hours i could see all my girl frends have colors as their status messages..and lo .. there was i with BLACK as my status message. Usually i do not overshare, most of us dnt ..but when it is for a good cause..why stay behind !

The campaign has marked the first successful use of Facebook status updates with very few words to send a powerful message across.. the message about BREAST CANCER AWARENESS.

Breast cancer, is one form of cancer that is easily curable if diagnosed in the early stages...and lack of awareness is one of the major reasons for its spread. And the disease is not uncommon ...one n every 9 women is affected ! So if this campaign helps even one woman ...just one ..is it not worth the effort ?

The campaign has been a landmark in viral marketing and has served as a fast, free and fun way for women to raise awareness about breast cancer and remind other women to get themselves examined....The thought of the disease crossed our minds more than, on any other normal day and even though it fell on deaf ears ..it helped many even if just for a few moments.

Simultaneously...the back lash against the campaign has also started wd hate groups and grps like i dnt want to know the color of your bra being started...but frends...there is a cause associated with it ...and the least we can do is spread awareness !

So girls gear up and jopin the campaign :)

Hahaha

I wonder why Im able to do this. Lolz

So the fact is.......

Aaaaj

PARUL

ka

BUDDDAY HAI!



HAPPY BIRTHDAY GAL!

ExTRA FaIRNeSS To ThE FaIR SEX !!!!!

Well, though i am normally associated with extreme feminsim and "male bashing" statements...this time i am here to raise concerns over the recent judgement passed by an apex court where they said that " the courts could have faith on any girl or woman in the country who seeks justice against sexual assault !"

If we can talk so much about gender equality these days why have gender biased laws that are skewed towards women ...there are already many laws to protect the interests of women ...laws against domestic violence, dowry, female feticide, we have reservations for the girl child, the single girl child..the women reservation bill and what not ...

On one hand these laws confer protection on women on the other hand they confer undue power to abuse men on women. We already have so many genuine cases illustrating the rampant misuse of the Dowry Law by unscrupulous women to extort money and harass their husband’s entire extended family. So how can we gurantee that women who complain against sexual abuse shall not be misusing this power ??? Such laws would only continue to perpetuate gender discrimination and not put an end to it ! After all who says men can't be abused...???? LOL !

In my opinion, the Indian government has done enough to support structures for women who want to launch violence or harassment complaints, and make the criminal justice system, particularly the police, more gender sensitive and now its time to wait and watch before passing more judgements in favor of women, lest this law becomes yet another misguided attempt to enact legislation to grant women legal supremacy over men and to create a society where men are deprived of their rights...!!!!

for more details : http://epaper.indianexpress.com/IE/IEH/2010/01/05/ArticleHtmls/05_01_2010_001_005.shtml?Mode=1

http://epaper.indianexpress.com/IE/IEH/2010/01/05/index.shtml

ADiEU 2009...!!!!!

As the year draws to a close....i really want to thank all my Friends , colleagues, enemies, and all the people who touched my life this year....ThANKYOu So VerY MuCH.... for the lessons that I learnt, for the memories that we share, for the fun we had and for the support you lent !!!!

FrOM ThE CLaSSrOOM...

Dedicated to all my teachers til date.

When I last visited my school , I was absolutely amazed to see the gleam in the eyes of my teachers ....they were DELIGHTED ! Their love and affection was gushing out for me and i could actually see it in their eyes...As a student i remember how we were taught to be cultured and well mannered. While in school, we were in awe of our teachers, we loved them , they loved us ...there was an element called respect !

But, as I set foot in college i realized all in all, there is deterioration in the school and college discipline. We Indians are considered to be cultured and respectful; carrying the treasure of our ancestral values. And here we treat our teachers and professors in the ugliest way. Gone are the days when Eklavya gave away his thumb to his guru without asking any questions. The teacher was then seen as a a parent, a mentor and like a God. Probably that is why students would touch teacher’s feet i guess !Well I am not  even advocating a return to those times but today the pendulum has swung far too much away from the authority and respect our teachers command.

While in school I never even dreamed of even talking back to my teachers, let alone ridiculing them ! Sure we had the odd run-in with them, but students who tried to cross this line of respect were clipped around the ear. In today's world, if a college professor does anything even close to punishing the students that would infringe the little darlings' human rights..!!! I sure have seen many such examples in my 6 years of college life..

Yes, in today’s era of fast changing values and technology, we as students are getting exposure to many means of education, the media, internet and books to name a few. But that dsnt really undermine the importance of  having a teacher or attending classes...does it ?Can a human being be replaced by audio-visual teaching aids?

True that these aids appeal to the eyes and mind, but at the same time they are so mechanical, emotionless..!!! In contrast, our teachers provide us not only intellectual support but also moral support, ethical values and emotional positivity.

It disheartens me at times...when i find only a shade of the devotion, respect and duty to the teachers by the students today ... and please even that shade of feeling is not universal..just a few good students here n there ! Leave aside complete submission of one’s ego to the teacher’s will. We find frequent friction and clashes of egos. Perhaps, some where we probably believe we know more than them ! Today, the teacher is perceived as another service provider who gets paid for it...

Rude , but yes it is true..we really have forgotten our values and the respect we owe to our teachers...! Though it might be impossible to recreate the situation as of yore, but it is desirable to travel a few steps back...infact essential..

For all my fellowmates and friends who read this...spare a moment to think about it ! :) and only when the realization comes from within can the guru shishya relationship be rekindled !

P.S - I dnt want to sound like some teachers pet or something , and I am no geek but I decided to write this post when one fine day i had had enuff  from the miscreants studying in my college... !!! I hope it helps :D

Turbulent times

I guess its time for an update. I’ve been wanting to put up a real post for quite some time now but the things that I do to keep me busy, really do keep me busy….drained rather. No complaints though. Busy is good, right? :)

Ever wondered how the general mindset of our generation, keeps changing?

From discussions...the first crush in school, to discussing career paths after school,to discovering friendships and hunting for good boys in college and so on...

Well my latest discovery, and I might be really lame and late in realizing this, is that by the time you are past your mid-20s, all anyone can talk about is Relationships...!!!

Good relationships and Bad relationships.

Long relationships and Failed relationships.

Who is getting into a relationship and Who just fell out of one.

Why you need to be in relationships and why you are better off without them.

Guys who've been in a dozen relationships since puberty and Girls who havn't seen even one.

Relationships that led to marriages and Relationships that were forged after marriages.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with all of this. I see everything,i experience everything and I hear everyone.

The only hitch is that I look at the mirror and fail to understand - Why am i always in trouble when it comes to such relationships !!!

Is it a general problem that everyone seems to suffer from or is it something peculiar to me...the question is ...and would always remain...

CaN THe HeaRT EveR CeaSE to LOVE...

Relationships start and relationships break... 

And after all has happened...hurt, lonely, deserted , grief struck we decide we wont fall in love again...we yearn for the love we have lost..we grieve and mourn...with no motivation and energy left...we see no future! A break up of any kind of relationship makes a person lose her strength and her self esteem. It's tough to move on with life when you suddenly find yourself unloved and single again...There is so much that keeps you reminding of all that happened..there are shared memories, shared friends, shared traditions and sometimes shared children !

It is sad but eventually even after all this..do we stop loving ? Do we actually stop loving them or do we just supress our feelings ? Or do we just move on and put it behind us ? When we say perhaps it doesnt go away may be it turns to something like a detached love...It's just like when someone that you love dies. You don't stop loving them just because they are no longer here, you just accept that they've moved on and learn to cherish the memories that you have...

Watever the case be...rarely does someone hold back to the old memories..." LOVE is a slippery slope! " as one of my frends says...n no matter how hard we try we do slip every now n then :) and even then we are never prepared for the heart ache that goes with it...!!!

Everyone is different, and time does heal and make things easier, but there are some people you never stop loving , at least its that way for me.

Is it really LOVE that hurts?

Well well... my question to everyone who reads this....Have you ever really been in love? Does it really hurt so much ? A friend of mine happened to meet me today, unfortunately his relationship with his high school sweetheart had come to an end...as he told me about his story n the way things happened i could feel the impression he had gathered about this emotion called LOVE ! He said its horrible because it makes you so vulnerable...opening your chest, opening up your heart so that someone can get inside you and mess you up. Well, he claimed he was perfectly " normal "till the day " that stupid girl " ( his words !) no different from all the other stupid girls walked into his life...and; he gave her a piece of himself...and then his life wasn't his own anymore. Love had ripped him apart he said !!! Just like all gud friends i sided by him ...n consoled me...however he soon left and left me wondering ...IS IT REALLY LOVE THAT HURTS?????

I guess, rejection hurts, loneliness hurts, parting hurts, distance hurts...but its never love that hurts...! And if u ask me...it is so beautiful that once ur out of it ...u want to fall into the whole thing again and again and again !!!

Love is always evolving, and changing intensity. The ability to morph from one person to another is one of the most beautiful qualities of love. The fact that people have enough faith in another person, in the joys of love, that they allow themselves to be vulnerable to such pain, is itself such a beautiful thing...!!! However the question still remains...is it really love that hurts?

"O tell her, brief is life but love is long."

- Alfred, Lord Tennyson

Letting go ...

The beauty about life is that its constantly changing...taking new twists n turns that we can never predict...
Spending years away from home in the company of friends had made me some what very demanding ..i mean there was never any option besides keeping in touch always..! Every happening in each others life was always discussed in length ..and in depth...but over a period of time iv realized...There are times you need to let go !!! And letting go does not mean breaking ties..letting go does not mean u stop caring..letting go simply means accepting the fact that the outcome cannot always be in my hands...

Today everyone has more "responsibilities" (however you define it), and though news is still shared, it is no longer with the same limitless abandon as before. The ones who were there for me 24/7 no longer seemed to be "on call" for me all the time. Though I know, they are the best on earth ..that I can still count on them, I initially felt hurt by this sudden demotion. For the first time in my life, Iv started thinking twice about calling some close friends for fear of "intruding". I was unhappy about this initially but now i guess..
I have finally reached the stage I have dreaded for so long. I have come to accept that frequent and daily communication with close friends is not something which is going to start happening magically by itself. Though it seemed so at some point, just because we are "friends", it does not automatically guarantee constant involvement. Everyone is busy with their own lives. 
Maybe this is another symptom of growing up - I don't know. The saddest part is, I no longer feel sad or angered by this realization. Because I myself am "busy" you see... :D

Don't get me wrong here. As I have said many times before, my friends will always be one of the foundations of my life and that is something which will never change. Friendship should grow and evolve as the persons in it grow and evolve - that after all, is a sign of a long-lasting relationship. Well, this knowledge still does not stop me from saying with pride that..

I HAVE THE BEST POSSIBLE F.R.I.E.N.D.S. IN THE WORLD..

That they have continued to be n would always be there for me wenever i want them...just that the scenario has changed...situations have changed...there are other things which are probably keepin us all occupied...n now i think im mature enough to understand this transition n let go... :)

Life is so hard that if you keep chasing it it will drive you to death ...and Time when pursued like a bandit will behave like one...At some point you have to stop because IT WON'T..you have to admit that you can't catch it..that you 're not supposed to catch it ...at some point u gotta let go...sit still and allow contentment to come to you !!!